Accountable to our Soul - what does that mean?

I was listening to a podcast recently when the guest dropped a line that stopped me in my tracks: “We are accountable to our soul.”

I felt those words deeply.

And when I really sat with it, I felt both the truth of it… and how often we forget it.

So many of us are living from fear rather than love. From ‘shoulds’ rather than wants. From survival mode, people pleasing, overdoing, underfeeling. Outward-focused, disconnected from our inner world.

We’ve lost sight of who we are underneath all the masks and roles. And when we don’t really know ourselves, how can we live in a way that honours our soul?

And the cost of that disconnection is huge.

When we’re disconnected from ourselves, we often feel like something’s missing — even if everything looks fine on the surface. We doubt ourselves. We overthink. We ignore what we truly need. We might feel numb, restless, resentful, or constantly chasing the next thing.

And the ripple effects stretch far beyond us.

When we’re not connected to ourselves, we struggle to connect deeply with others. We parent, lead, love, and work from a place of fear, control, or avoidance. We pass on the same patterns we never wanted to repeat.

But when we do the work to reconnect — to come home to ourselves — everything changes.

We show up differently. Softer. Courageous. More authentic. We start to live with intention, presence, and love. And that energy ripples outward in the most beautiful ways.

So how do we begin to live accountable to our soul?

Here’s where I always start:

1. Curiosity over judgment

This is the foundation. When we get curious, we stop being the critic and start being the compassionate observer. We soften. We listen. We learn.

Curiosity lets us explore the parts of us that are hurting, hiding, or holding on tightly — without trying to fix or shame them. It creates space for truth. And that’s where everything begins.

Since I embraced (and continue to embrace) curiosity, I’ve met so many incredible people I never would have met if I’d stayed in judgment — of myself or of others. Curiosity has opened doors to deep connections, new perspectives, and the kind of growth I never expected.

2. Looking inward, not outward

It’s easy to think the answers are out there — in someone else’s advice, in society’s expectations, in the next big achievement. But our soul doesn’t live out there. It lives in here.

When we start listening inward, tuning into how we feel, what we need, what matters to us — life gets clearer. We start to make decisions that are aligned. And peaceful. Even if they don’t make sense to others.

3. Living by our values

When we don’t know our values, we live by default — reacting, coping, hustling for worth. And when we get clear on what truly matters to us (not what we were taught should matter), we can choose differently. We can act in alignment, rather than in fear.

Living our values is soul-accountability in action. It’s saying: “This is who I am. This is what I stand for. This is how I want to live.”

4. Choosing love over fear

Fear keeps us small, stuck, and second-guessing. Love — for ourselves, for others, for life — expands us. It helps us make brave choices. It helps us forgive. It helps us rest.

Living accountable to our soul doesn’t mean being perfect. It means being honest. It means coming back to ourselves, over and over again.

With curiosity. With compassion. With love.

And when we do? We change. And so does the world around us.

So maybe the question isn’t “Am I doing life right?”

Maybe it’s…

✨Am I being honest with myself?

✨Am I choosing curiosity over judgment?

✨Am I living in a way that feels true to my soul?

Because when we start there — everything else begins to shift.

I'd love to know... What part of you is ready to reconnect?

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